Ok so theres this girl right. We've been sort of together/friends w/benefits grey area thingy for about a month now and I like her quite a bit. I sort of want to take it to the next level, but I don't want to bring it up. I sort of want her to bring it up, so that I don't have to risk ruining what we already have which is still great in my opinion.
I'm also a math whiz, and I really like teaching people stuff... this comes in later in the story. So anyways we are talking and she is really bad at math. I see this as an opportunity to show that I can be a sort of boyfriend overlooker theory and say I'm a whiz at math let me help you when we hang out this weekend.
Umm so here's my dilemma, how do I mix cutesy ways of getting some in with my helping her with math. I figure if it was addition I could be like so if I gave you one kiss then I gave you 2 more how many kisses will I have given you, but unfortunately that isn't high school curriculum.
You either come out and say it or give her other more subtle signs, but I think using math to do that is a bad idea. Unless you're a professional comedian or performer or something and know exactly how to do it so you don't sounds like a geek.
ok rev, make a new rule, no man shall give his opinion. okay?
Women are the biggest mystery of the universe, me being one, i think i know. So guys, no offense, but shut your mouth j/k
anyway
If she hasn't suggested any "romantic interest" in you yet... shes
1. too shy
2. doesnt like you
so either way "hinting" is going to do no good. because she'll be too shy to make the first "real move" or if she doesnt like you, your hints wont do anything but make her uncomfortable and not know what to do..
I'm going to guess shes shy, being your a very likeable guy... So, I think you should tell her.. not straight out like "i like you and want to be with you" and blah blah blah, because thats going to shock the piss out of her and make her uncomfortable...
what you do is take it slow...
get what needs done first, just in case you two end up f***ing and forget about the homework (j/k), anyway.. help her with her math, then say something like your thirsty or hungry so you want to take a break. That seems normal right? nothing suspicious. Ask if she wants to do something else for a while (and no i dont mean that sexually), like watch a movie, go get something to eat, etc.... (if you watch a movie, dont go to the movies, thats the worst place to 'talk'. so do it at home.
A movie is the perfect scenario, i dont know how many times my ex f*** buddy and I pretended we wanted to watch a movie knowing we really just wanted to get straight to it (excuse how crude this is) lol...
Anyway, sometime during the movie, just do gradual things. First thing you should do is be the last to sit on the couch. And when you sit down, sit to where your thighs are touching... THIS IS THE BEST WAY TRUST ME...... because if she scoots over a lil bit, that means shes uncomfortable, if she stays where she is, she totally digs you...
I'm not saying if she scoots she doesnt like you, but thats just an easy way to let her know that you meant to sit that close to her... so maybe you arent going to "let it out" that night, but she'll know your intentions, and hopefully will start becoming more open. Anyway, if she doesnt "scoot", after a few minutes just rest your hand on her leg. harmless right? if she gives you an odd look DO NOT move your hand. This is the best silent way to let someone know your interested. Do not move your hand unless she tells you too, or starts to scoot over.. anyway, after that your on your own. Im done typing, night night
What the hell would you consider friends with benefits if you haven't kissed yet?
Secondly, if she's coming over your house for the sole purpose of hanging out with you alone, then just go in for the kill already. If you wait too long, you will be put in the friend-zone, if you havent already.
If she's being a little flirtatious, if she's brushing up against you a lot, or if she's giving you looks, then just go in for the kiss. If she wants it, she'll let you, if not then she won't. Reading her body language is something that you can only do for yourself, so learn how to do it, and go give it a shot
Kayla wrote:ok rev, make a new rule, no man shall give his opinion. okay?
Women are the biggest mystery of the universe, me being one, i think i know. So guys, no offense, but shut your mouth j/k
anyway
If she hasn't suggested any "romantic interest" in you yet... shes
1. too shy
2. doesnt like you
so either way "hinting" is going to do no good. because she'll be too shy to make the first "real move" or if she doesnt like you, your hints wont do anything but make her uncomfortable and not know what to do..
I'm going to guess shes shy, being your a very likeable guy... So, I think you should tell her.. not straight out like "i like you and want to be with you" and blah blah blah, because thats going to shock the piss out of her and make her uncomfortable...
what you do is take it slow...
get what needs done first, just in case you two end up f***ing and forget about the homework (j/k), anyway.. help her with her math, then say something like your thirsty or hungry so you want to take a break. That seems normal right? nothing suspicious. Ask if she wants to do something else for a while (and no i dont mean that sexually), like watch a movie, go get something to eat, etc.... (if you watch a movie, dont go to the movies, thats the worst place to 'talk'. so do it at home.
A movie is the perfect scenario, i dont know how many times my ex f*** buddy and I pretended we wanted to watch a movie knowing we really just wanted to get straight to it (excuse how crude this is) lol...
Anyway, sometime during the movie, just do gradual things. First thing you should do is be the last to sit on the couch. And when you sit down, sit to where your thighs are touching... THIS IS THE BEST WAY TRUST ME...... because if she scoots over a lil bit, that means shes uncomfortable, if she stays where she is, she totally digs you...
I'm not saying if she scoots she doesnt like you, but thats just an easy way to let her know that you meant to sit that close to her... so maybe you arent going to "let it out" that night, but she'll know your intentions, and hopefully will start becoming more open. Anyway, if she doesnt "scoot", after a few minutes just rest your hand on her leg. harmless right? if she gives you an odd look DO NOT move your hand. This is the best silent way to let someone know your interested. Do not move your hand unless she tells you too, or starts to scoot over.. anyway, after that your on your own. Im done typing, night night
She's showed alot of interest, so that's not the problem. Its gettting it that extra step to where its an actual relationship.
Minkish wrote:What the hell would you consider friends with benefits if you haven't kissed yet?
Secondly, if she's coming over your house for the sole purpose of hanging out with you alone, then just go in for the kill already. If you wait too long, you will be put in the friend-zone, if you havent already.
If she's being a little flirtatious, if she's brushing up against you a lot, or if she's giving you looks, then just go in for the kiss. If she wants it, she'll let you, if not then she won't. Reading her body language is something that you can only do for yourself, so learn how to do it, and go give it a shot
And we have kissed quite a bit, I don't know where people got the idea we hadn't.
Well then wha the hell are you waiting for. If you've already done that, just tell her "Listen, I've thought about it a lot, and I think you should be my girlfriend"
stopper, you've got sick sick sick sick (x infinity) perversion.lol!!
